I will be the first to admit I have such a struggle with relationships. I really do. The skills I have I just Gravitate twards bad company.  Company i keep because I am codependent anyway. 
Alright, The friendship i developed with a girl over a year ago was good for only 4 months. Its complex because her husband is my husbands friend.  Things went well, she was highly wounded up, probably just as codependent as I am.  I felt a since of happiness because i felt she really cared about me.  She encouraged me to do things, and at the same token she would talk about others behind their backs and slander them. I thought she respected me enough to be okay with all the baggage i told her, right away i jumped in and confide my whole life story into her, every bit a person could crusify me with.  well she got onto a site where i had blogged, to my surpise she read all my stuff all of it, and told others to as well, she is in her 40s, well i never confronted her but instead said I am so sorry you read all that stuff i wrote, i felt panic because the site i used was for my mental health.  Well, If that wasn't enough, she turned a friend against me, the friend forgave me and understood my intentions were not vindictive but my other friend told me she worried about me being so nieve, yet as time went on i gave her the benifit of the doubt and forgave, well i had a get together i planned for myself for my birthday. this friend of mine was so sparatic in planning that i couldn't even keep the plans straight i was trying to accomidate her, because in a sick way i cared about her even though she did what she's been doing. Well i changed plans about 4 times and the place we were to eat she said, she wasn't comming because she heard the place was dirty. I told her fine, I got off the phone and tore my room up. Tears flooded my eyes and i ripped all her photos up.

I later told her that hurt me, well she ran back to my other friend and tried to slander me so i told her without telling her my other firend told me anything that if she contiunes to treat me the way she does im never talking to her again, well she then kicked me to the curb saying i was crazy and that shed never talk to me again like this all was my fault or something.

About a month went by, she started talking again, i only apologized for what i was accountable for, she seemed to accept the apology and i got a half ass one, Im sure she still reminds others of my downfalls.   Like she does me of others. But, I try to again be christian and only be nice and deal with her as a friend or aquantance, i limit what i share now but the problem now is,

shes wanting to plan a get together at their house, and i know that suddenly everyone is going to go to that, but when it came to my thing for me i was tossed at the waste side, I forgive but i do find it quite hard to forget, in a way i know i'd be excluding myself the fun but i really don't feel like going. I was going to make an excuse or something. I just feel like Im not being treated with dignitiy and respect when it comes to me.  but when others are in control they get everyone to get together. Its just sad..