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Mood: Disappointed
Date: Aug. 26, 2008
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Ok.  So some of you know I have a "mixed up" relationship with hubby.  I need to work more on me and sobriety before tackling that.  With that said last night hubby flipped out.  Was punching stuff, screaming, etc  Scared the sh*t out of me and I don't get scared easily.  I think I was mroe scared b/c felt like I might have to call the police and really didn't want all that drama.  I should mention he was totally drunk.  He was a bit antogonistic when I left for meeting but when i returned he flipped completely.  One of my neighbors came over b/c she heard the screaming and banging and stuff.   I'm upset about it but it made me more determiend not to drink again b/c if i was drinking that situation would have taken a very different route.  Just sucks.  Feel like ther is never going to be a break.  I had a great meeting and was ina good mood and come home to that.  Trying very hard to stay on top of all the sh*t so I don't feel anymore overwhelmed.  Last night just threw me.  I don't know what his bottom is going to be b/c he keeps getting lower and lower and not phased by it.  It sucks that we cant change others.  I made it clear to him that I will be going to extra meetings, etc and he is not to drink while he is watching daughter so I can go to the meetings.  Right now he is trying to be nice but I'm not that easily charmed.

Jenn

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From: atreyuas
August 29, 2008, 11:32 am

it's never pleasant to come home to a screaming monster.   i faced a similar situation not too long ago (bf overdosed and was flipping out when i got home) and i ended up moving out for a while.  once he got clean and realized what was at stake, his life, our relationship, ME, he recommitted himself to the program. now we're both on track and back together.  i've even moved back in with him, but really, i don't think things would have gotten better if i stayed.  i had to think about my own safety, my own sobriety, and my own future.  

you say you aren't easily charmed, and that's good, but even living in the same house with someone like that is endangering everything you're working for, and it's going to bite you in the ass, eventually.  

be strong.  put your foot down.  you can't wait for HIM to hit bottom.  for all you know, his bottom could drag YOU down with him.  don't expose yourself to that kind of chaos.  nothing good will come of it.

GET OUT.



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August 26, 2008, 8:04 pm

Hi Jenn,

First I want to say that your ending delighted me.  I am not that easily charmed. Thank goodness for that.

I mean he might not even remember what he did, but if not then why is he playing the nice guy today. I hate voliance and abuse, and honey this is.

He always does this when you get ahead a little. He would have been fine had you joined him in a drink. This reminds me so much of my childhood. To say I am angry right now is an understatment. He has to be told getting angry is one thing but that you won't put up with this abuse.

Please sweetie. I know as much as anyone what it is too be in a lousy marriage and with children it is hard to pick up and leave. I know you want to get a "sure" footing before dealing with this. That is fine by me as long as you are sober he hasn't got a chance. I know that under all that pain is one more powerful woman.

I love you to death and I have been pulling and praying for you for months. I would do AA and the 12steps in spite of him. Maybe if he sees you won't be moved he will follow you in. But that is his journey not yours.

And remember too that his bottom will be yours too, like if he looses his job and other things you count on for your lively hood. Put your part away for your daughter and you. Be prepared for what could happen when he does hit bottom and he will.

But maybe one night in jail if he does this again will put a stop to his out breaks. Tell him there is only one child in your home who is allowed to throw a tantrum.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers daily. Jenn honey you can do this I know you can. You want to be free soooo bad and I want to witness it. Yes I am crying I can't help it, you have tried so hard. I will go.

With love,

Paris



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August 26, 2008, 7:08 am

Instead of just accepting the downward spiral, have you taken any measures to prevent it? If he's getting violent with people beyond what he's breaking, I'd suggest setting you and your daughter aside somewhere for a time so that things settle out. Has any talking been done about why he's getting worse? Any clues? What's most important is that you're sober and being a very strong woman for you and your daughter. What's also important is the safety of everyone else. You're in my prayers, my friend. :)

Blessings for today and the everyday,

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