Saadi
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Forgiveness
| Mood: | Lonely |
| Date: | Jul. 03, 2008 |
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Have
you
ever
noticed
the
difference
in
people
who
are
able
to
easily
let
go
of
anger
and
forgive,
and
those
who
stay
in
anger
and
blame?
What
I
have
noticed
is
that
those
who
continue
to
stay
in
blame
and
anger
are
often
people
who
see
themselves
as
victims
of
other
people's
choices.
I've
noticed
that
people
who
stay
angry
at
someone
are
generally
people
who
are
very
controlling
and
believe
that
they
can
control
someone
else's
behaviour
through
punishment
-
anger,
blame,
judgment,
and
so
on.
If
you
hang
on
to
anger,
blame
and
resentment,
what
happens
to
you?
You
end
up
feeling
miserable.
Whenever
someone
behaves
in
a
manner
that
I
find
unacceptable,
I
attempt
to
understand
the
good
reasons
behind
the
unacceptable
behaviour.
Even
though
I
choose
compassion
rather
than
judgment
when
others
behave
in
unacceptable
ways,
this
does
not
mean
that
I
want
to
continue
to
be
around
the
person.
I
can
fully
understand
why
the
person
acted
as
he
or
she
did,
yet
still
decide
that
being
around
this
person
is
not
in
my
highest
good.
If
your
intent
is
to
control,
then
you
hope
that
by
not
being
around
that
person,
he
or
she
will
learn
their
lesson
and
change
their
behaviour.
You
have
not
really
decided
to
end
the
relationship.
You
have
a
secret
hope
that
by
distancing
yourself,
you
can
have
control
over
whether
or
not
this
person
changes.
If
someone
behaves
in
a
way
that
is
not
acceptable
to
you,
this
does
not
mean
that
you
need
to
leave
the
relationship.
It
does
mean
that
you
need
to
accept
that
it
may
happen
again
and
that
there
is
nothing
you
can
do
about
it.
You
have
no
control
over
another's
choices.
Again,
hanging
on
to
blame
and
resentment
will
only
make
you
miserable.
If
you
decide
to
stay,
then
you
need
to
decide
how
to
take
loving
care
of
yourself
in
the
face
of
the
other's
unacceptable
behaviour.
When
you
are
truly
taking
loving
care
of
yourself,
then
you
will
find
you
can
easily
forgive
the
other
person.
The
blessing
of
forgiveness
is
that
it
allows
you
to
let
go
of
life-draining
resentment
and
open
to
love
and
joy.
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