Addiction

October 15, 2008, 12:54 pm

I think you're right to just try build his confidence and let him know that you're both powerless over your ex's disease. It is really awful to watch your child miss out on such an important relationship, and I know all about this. My son's dad never calls, and sporadically takes him for a weekend, and he doesn't even have a drug problem!! He's just too selfish full stop!! I think my son has given up and doesn't expect anything from him anymore, which is a shame, but it's easier to deal with. I wish you strength and anytime you wanna write, feel free L

October 14, 2008, 9:47 am

Hope you're ok, and staying strong.

October 5, 2008, 1:56 pm

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September 25, 2008, 12:34 pm

I was in his place and am sure that I would never have made it in recovery without the support of my wife. She has found a lot of help through AlAnon and NarAnon meetings. I drank and did a lot of different drugs over 30+ years but my 3 years on crack were a hell I would wish on no one. I hope he will come around for his own sake and your as well. I am know here as Oblio because I finally realized how pointless the drug use was. May you walk in peace, David

August 26, 2008, 11:18 am

Sounds like your doing the right thing. I know it's a very tough thing to do esspecially when your heart has been broken by this person and there are children involved but it is for the best. Certainly bringing up the drug use in court they may have him tested on the spot and this may make him mad but remember that a users frame of thought is based around themselves and no one else. It is a selfish illness and once someone is clean and sober they will eventually feel the shame and guilt of all the wrong they have done. Court may make him go to manditory drug counsiling and parent classes if he wants to see his kids. It's hard for some people to quit doing drugs because they don't realize that people, places, and things are what cause the constant addiction. Many also have an underlying mental illness and may use drugs to self medicate. I know in my case this was the deal I drank to not feel depressed and anxiety and it was a vicious circle. Stay strong and no matter what keep putting your foot down because it is not fair for you or your kids to have this huge burden day in and day out. Do you have any local support groups where you live that may help you with legal advice and maybe some counsiling for your own sanity? Also does his parents know how bad of problem he has do they care and if they do have you ever thought of getting together a group of people that he is close with that do not use and having a intervention? Keep your head up your doing the right thing!