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From: dferry31
August 26, 2008, 10:24 am
I've decided to go to the court and take papers out to stop visitation and communcation, per the issue is that he never shows up 7 weeks stright he would call and say that he was coming and never show. Then 2 weeks ago he just pops up, sees the kids for maybe 10 minutes and the rest of the time in reality trying to feel my head with pity for him. Questioning who I'm seeing and such other questions. In fact the only reason he truly showed up was because the day he chose to call I had my number changed 1st thing that morning, so he couldn't get in touch with us so he had to show and see what was going on. I did end up giving in and giving him the number again stating that his calls saying he's coming and not showing up are over and that he either gets his sh*t together and be there for the kids or stay away. I am the one the only one that has to see there faces each time he's a no show, my heart brakes for them each time. That is why I have chose to do the paper for visitation, being that he never shows up I need to have that on record, and so that our son will not have to continue to be let down each week and all the anger he continues to build up inside because of his fathers no shows. At this point he doesn't need contact or visitation because when he does show up he only spends maybe 5 or 10 minutes with them and that makes him feel better about his self for several more weeks.But leaves the kids more upset because each time he really doesn't make time with them, and they have both seen me outside talking, crying and telling him he needs to be inside spending time with them that they should be 1st on his list.Everything you say to him goes in one ear and out the other. As long as he thinks he can continue doing this nothing will ever change. He has it put in his head that he isn't doing anything wrong.Last night he called after another 2 weeks of being a no show I truly just told him off and what I thought about him. I told him I was tired of seeing him hurt our son and just act as if he doesn't have one, and that if he has gas to go to drunks house's each day and money to drink and get high then his excuses for not having gas are over. I advised him that I would see him court and not to call anymore that he needs help. I plan on in the paper work requesting that he be in AA as well as parenting classes, I can note his drug problem but not sure is that will change anything. Please give me any advice or if you think I'm doing the right thing.......

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August 20, 2008, 6:53 pm
My wife left me because of my addictions. She told me a hundred times that she would but for some reason I never thought it would happen but I was sick and so is he. You need to cut him off completely and let him know you won't give in this is the only way through tough love he needs to hit bottom before he can understand what he stands to loose and it's not healthy for you either. Now I have a great relationship with my two little girls that I passed up to get high and me and my ex are friends. Stay strong!!!!

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From: JMB
July 30, 2008, 9:06 am
I agree with your hatred for drugs. Although I used to do them quite a bit I do not at all anymore. Glad your in counseling. Hand in there DFerry31. jmb PS - I'm an ol' NC native myself....Boone area.

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From: dferry31
July 30, 2008, 8:46 am
not really I've had better days, I seem to stay more upset these days. i get sick each morning from i guess everything that is going on. I'm trying to understand and cope with everything at the same time. I try so hard to understand what all my son's father is going thru, and I continue to be overly nice to him. Last night we had some words over him taking up for these so called new friends he hangs with, over my son. I was very upset that he called our son a liar, it's like these people he's hanging with do no wrong. He is barely working, so I'm trying to understand how he can afford to keep drinking and if he is still using coke. By his actions he's doing more then the drinking, he can be nice at one moment and the next he is flipping out. He's barely seen our son in the past 3 months, it brakes my heart each day to love someone and see that there are tearing the kids apart. Lately he's been calling upset that we the kids and I are going through so much, but yet he makes no effort to see them or change his life. I'm so confused, and heartbroken over the pain I see my kids going through. His cuzion told me last night to just stop answering the phone when he calls, and let him see that were done letting him hurt us. what do u think

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From: eagle
July 29, 2008, 7:31 pm
hope you are doing okey? sid

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